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Understanding OurselvesI am a highly sensitive person. Finding the Center for Highly Sensitive People and then reading Elaine Aron's book, "The Highly Sensitive Person," confirmed this for me. Getting this knowledge has been an important part of my journey of self-discovery. Each of us has an incredible path in life. The challenge is to find out as much as we can about ourselves and work through all the things that keep us from inner peace. Will we ever really know what our path is? Its possible. One can move from having no idea, to having a vague grasp (filled with doubts), to becoming a bit surer, to knowing with all your heart. For all of us, the most important thing to learn is to trust the higher powers to guide us at all times, and especially when we lose hope. Our life's experiences can make us feel like the little ball in a pinball game. Up, down, wham, bam, over and over. Yet every single one of those experiences add up to the total being of who you are now. These experiences will eventually lead you to develop a depth of compassion for yourself and for others you never dreamed was possible. As humans, we exist and make decisions either from a space of fear or a space of love. "If it ain't love you're feeling, it's fear"! We experience ongoing fear as a result of needing to protect ourselves against future pain. Most of you readers have experienced high levels of emotional pain as children that have continued on relentlessly into adulthood. As we go through life, we have varying degrees of success protecting ourselves, but ultimately, we end up feeling hurt again and again. Living in this defensive/offensive frame of mind is living in fear, limiting our ability to see life as a positive experience. It is possible to access those hurt parts of ourselves and go through a healing process that eventually allows us to experience the world as a safe and pain-free place. Not only do our lives improve, but also other people's behavior becomes easier to understand. From this space, compassion develops. When we reach that point, it finally makes life worth living. One of the first steps we can take to find peace inside of our clamoring minds is to become aware of all the judgments we have on ourselves and the rest of the world. All the anger we experience towards others is a reflection of the anger we have towards ourselves. All the judgments we place on the people around us can be found as similar judgments we have about ourselves. Life only acts as our mirror, yet we keep trying to change the reflection we see. Needless to say, we keep on getting the same reflection that we don't like. When we work towards changing ourselves, it's only then our reflection in the mirror changes.
The Sensitive Newsletter, April 15, 2001 The Center For Highly Sensitive People
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